found this blog with some pretty amazing photos and this one especially owns me.



Principle 5, bullet point 2 of the NAADAC (the association for addiction professionals)  code of ethics:

“I willingly accept that there may be a penalty for justified civil disobedience, and I must weigh the personal harm of that penalty against the good done by civil protest.”

I like this.


another week begins. pray for us, we need to set up a meeting with a guy from the zoning commission to see if they are going to stick it with us with zoning laws for the transitional house. Other than that, things are moving. We are planning on inviting all the neighbors, volunteers and others over one night before we open for an open house/ bar b que. that will be exciting and we’ll get to share the vision and possibly do a little fund raising! funds are very necessary.

last week was turbo. i dont see a difference for this week.


i have indeed met the most amazing people of my life (not to discount the people i know, none of you struggle (that i know) with mental illness). I  met people that are ex vets, ex drug addicts, schizophrenics, people with bi polar disorder, and all kinds of other mental illness. These are the richest people i know. Some with educations, some with no educations, but the beautiful thing is that these people have found hope. They have hope like i have never seen. they have been strapped to beds, flooded with medications, told they will never be “right”, yet they are. I am surrounded by success stories of people who have been the victims of neglect, abuse, discrimination and the darkness of the prison of depression, and now they walk head tall into a life of certainty with hope of recovery. I am so proud to know these people and to be able to share in their stories. I sat in a group meeting (my first in 11 years!)  last night and shared my story of drug addiction/ mental illness and my years of burying both of those, but the people i sat with, and my wife gave me the courage to acknowledge myself and my lived experience.


i want to start a community of people who live in smaller areas, that cant grow all of their vegetables, but can focus on a few, who would be willing to share their vegetables. The idea is to grow veggies and share them with each other so that everyone has enough. I live in a town house, but the one thing that sarah and i lack are leafy greens, peppers, different types of tomatos, etc. What we can provide are tomatos, cucumbers, squash, various basils, chives, lavender, rosemary, mint, cilantro, marjoram, and stevia.

if you’re interested, let me know!

gardenzo .

both gardens are coming in well. i’m having a little bit of powdery mildew problem with my big leafed stuff (squash and zuchini) at the indie house. This comes as no surprise because we barely get 6 hours of sun in the garden. We’ve got a ton of cucumbers and whole lot of herbs (thai basil, lemon basil, mint, mint julep, lavender, dill, rosemary, sweet basil, and stevia) at the townhouse garden. If you want some, let me know. all of our stuff is organic, comes from Young’s Mill farmthrough Farmer D organics. We use only organic fertilizers and spray fungicides and pesticides that are USDA organic certified so we dont worry about eating veggies and chemicals. 

we have watermelons, pumpkins, winter squash, pole beans and tomatos coming soon. 

spare the rod, not the discipline.

these past two days have been those kinds of days that when you sit down to write, all the energy you had intended to use for writing goes right out the window. 

I have been in training for the past two days for a new program called Safe Care. It’s a program that we will be implementing to help parents better interact with their kids and help them make sure their house is suitable for children. The program teaches a parent how to interact with his/her child while creating a stable environment for that child through positive reinforcement. Safe care takes two or three activities that present the most problems and uses those activities as a teaching medium for the parent to learn how to engage their child and help their child behave.

This is good, scientifically proven, parenting curriculum that i cant wait to drop on some parents! 

I see a couple of things with parenting that have shown how our culture has changed. 

1. I dont think, and neither  do alot of other people, that whipping a kid for being bad is as effective as constantly applying positive feedback for good behavior. When you continue to acknowledge good behavior in a child, he will naturally want to do the things that get him/ her the most attention. If acting out gets attention, then naturally the kid will act out, but if we shift the focus to the good behavior, then said kid will act in good behavior for the reward. 

2. I think alot of people dont want to hit their kids, but dont know what it means to discipline because they dont understand being proactive as a parent. This is dangerous because children need discipline. Passivity with regards to parenting will lead to a kid that will consistently test boundaries and push the envelope. By not acknowledging minut bad behavior and praising for good behavior, you will raise up a child that wants to do good. 

I say all of this with the understanding that there will always be times to have to acknowledge bad behavior. But my question would be, ” are you going to discipline for now, or for the future?” You must take the time to set up consequences and rewards and then be as consistent as possible. 


*no one can refute the model of experience. with that being said, please know that i know nothing about raising a child personally. I guess you can say that i’m working on being a “trained parent.” Please do not think that i am alluding to the idea that i have it all figured out. i have an opinion and  theories and a whole bunch of data. i’ll let you know when the rubber meets the road.*

unjust america.

America has a nasty little history of injustice.  

1. American Indians

2. Women

3. African Americans

4. Homosexuals

am i missing anyone else? 

It’s kind of gross. I think the next time i hear someone say “america is a Christian Nation”  I’m going to…. pray for them, and then implement  anger management techniques.  

I guess none of us are perfect. 

i did hear that congress was planning to or has apologized to the african american community for slavery. I’m just trying to figure out why we aren’t celebrating this. 

i also have thoughts on gay rights and the preservation of the family i cant wait to share.