Travis and Stephanie Kuhn

fairlane

i picked up a 64 ford fairlane 500 last week. It’s all original, has 83,000+ miles and needs a total restoration. Its an inline six car, so ill pull out the motor and transmission and go with a same period 302 and c4 transmission. We bought the car in an effort to start a mentoring program for high school students that are involved in the alternative school program here in Paulding County. We will build the car and host an annual car show to auction off the car and give the proceeds to the morgan brooke foundation, which is and effort to rehabilitate victims of sexual exploitation and slavery.

we will keep the interior all original except for colors. we’ll paint everything, and have the upholstery redone, use the same gauges, etc, we’ll probably even use the same wheels and hubcaps. the idea is to beef up the drive train and suspension and make this car a solid daily driver.

we’ll see how this one goes, and then we’ll look into more classic rides like 57 chevy’s, pony cars, and 32 fords. I also want to do motorcycles, but i’m going to have to come across something awesome like an old indian or old harley, or bonneville. I dont know what we’d do if someone donated an old Norton. (that bike might disappear mysteriously)

happy new year!

2009 was a great year. i got married, visited key west, learned alot more about my family and friends, found an amazing job, started a non profit organization, found my self an old cb750 (which i’m still trying to start), went an amazing church for a while, moved on to another amazing church, began to realize more and more truths about myself (thank you sarah), had an amazing surprise party for my 30th birthday (thank you sarah). I also realized my love for good belgium and dark beers, i learned to appreciate slowing down and being where i am, I began to learn how to appreciate family (again, thank you sarah). I had my first married Christmas, i rode my motorcycle alot with some amazing dudes, reconnected a bit with some old friends, watched a friend move to charleston, went to savannah 4 times, once was july 4th (tybee island was miserable). My best friend got engaged, got his triumph running, and got over here for some new year festivities last night. Sarah and i grew an awesome garden and enjoyed our veggies. We picked up another dog, welcome oscar. I went to barber vintage festival, met a cool dude named Chris in gainesville… probably one of the coolest dudes i know. Two of my friends brought home their new born a few weeks early, we were all thankful because its was a tough stretch for them, even after bringing her home. She’s healthy and beautiful. I lost my grandfather to alzheimers. He’s still alive, but not with us.

i plan on  enjoying life more this year. I’ll be 31 in 14 days. I dont want to get busy. I want to do the things i enjoy like working on motorcycles and playing drums, but i want my time with my wife and friends to be intentional. I want my health and my weight to be a priority. I want to enjoy mornings and slow down in the evenings. i want to know God. I want to develop my own relationship with him, not try to maintain a relationship that i think should look a certain way. I’m going on vacation and i’ll probably leave my phone at home. one thing i’m probably most excited about is taking really awesome motorcycle trips.  Overall, i’m pretty excited about 2010.

i had a good year, full of good people and good experiences, and i’m looking forward to new experiences in 2010.

thoughts on community, geared towards recovery residency.

             Community is more than a place we live or a street we dwell on, community is the air we breathe. Community runs much deeper than the rehabilitation center we’ve just checked into, it’s a heart we have for one another. This heart is simple: it is not geared for one’s own wants, but geared toward the betterment of the whole of the people who live there. To live in community, a person should not think to herself about herself, but rather, how will my actions effect this community that I live in. In a small community, you have many resources. Each person has gifts and talents that have been granted to him or her. These talents should not be pointed out, but discovered. Those that dwell in community should take time to get to know one another. This will lead to understanding, which can result in compassion and love. Knowing one another will help in creating the glue that will bond the community together. With the bonds of love and compassion, the community will grow when a new member comes to join. Instead of coldness, the new member will be received with joy and openness, which will result in quickened healing on the new member’s part, and healing on the part of the members already living there. As members grow in their knowledge of one another, strengths will be recognized. Along with this, I believe that a willingness to serve will be recognized, and the strengths that accompany will find their home. Each member will understand more and more of his or her role in the community. As strengths are honed, need will decrease, at least need as we recognize it. When someone has a need, it will be noticed and taken care of. The compassion this member carries will not allow it to go unnoticed, and the need will be met, instinctively. When we realize these gifts, I believe it strengthens our self worth our confidence to become who we were created to be. In community, time should be spent working together, eating together, going places together, and helping one another with the general chores. The goal should not be to lighten the load for yourself, yet if you have a light load, let the compassion in your heart lead you to help the other person to lighten his or her load. In community, time should be spent alone. A walk in the woods, sitting on the porch to yourself, unplugging from all the influence allows one to clear their head and make informative decisions, think about ideas and lessons learned in the day, and plan for the future. Time should be spent learning, reading and researching. Things learned can be useful to the community and help the body as a whole. Time spent working together can relay a sense of companionship and loyalty as a group works toward a goal. To see the finished product means that the group recognizes their accomplishments, the strengths that were added to the project and the way the group organized the worked as a team to accomplish the goal. The results can strengthen one’s self worth and thicken the bond that ties the community together. Relaxing together can also provide down time for the community to enjoy life, to recognize the beauty that is the world. Experience can bond a community tighter. Adversely, co-dependency can ruin a community. Not knowing your own boundaries and having the ability to say no can weaken a member psychologically meaning that secretly inside, the member may experience frustration and resentment, which will ultimately come to a head. Taking time to not do is a great way to maintain the bond of the community. This is a thin line to walk, but we all must walk it. Being honest about our self will make this path easier. We all depend on each other just as the body depends on all the parts to make it work correctly. If you cut off the foot, the body walks with a limp. If one person does not accept the responsibility that goes with living in the community, the whole community is affected. When discord presents itself, honesty will be the champion that brings the group back to order. Effective honesty is not proving ones right or wrong, but looking inside to see how he or she may be negatively impacting this situation. Honesty with one’s self at this point will be the only thing to save the group. There is no room for pride. If a person struggles with envy, not being honest will only drive the wedge deeper in the community. Acknowledging that I struggle with envy will bring to light the problem, and will cause the other community members to act differently, remembering that the best for the community is always top priority. If someone is stealing from the group, for the thief to come forward and admit guilt will create compassion for that person, maybe not up front, but the honesty will create a greater bond in the long run. Forgiveness will be served in greater portion with honesty. Honesty about strengths and weaknesses will go a long way, as well. Remember, there is no room for pride in the community except for pride in the community. If a person struggles with multi tasking with their children, asking for help only strengthens the bonds. Admitting weakness is a huge step in living in community. Community living should not be assumed easy. There is a long time period for people that have never lived in community to adjust to community life. This is why Patience must gird the whole process. Patience will accompany compassion and humility as the group grows in understanding. For all of us, this is a new way of doing life. It’s not just about moving into a place and having our needs met, it’s more about moving into a place, healing and helping meet the needs of others as you grow in your understanding of yourself and the world around you. You have in you the ability to do good, have a good life, and feel good about yourself, but only you can find those things. It’s my personal belief that looking outside of yourself will advance you in your search. This is why living in community is so important.