As long as we have breath, there is hope… because there is One who gave us breath and He is our Hope…. and through him, we are the hope for those who are hopeless.

lose control

anger can be an explosive, detrimental emotion. If not managed well, anger can have devastating effects in human relations to self and others. Anger can bring about depression, drug abuse, and many other psychologically based problems. I don’t think enough people give credit to the power of anger.
i remember a time when i was sixteen, i punched the window out of my truck. I backed up my actions by saying that i was angry about my girlfriend and recent developments in our relationship. Truthfully, i was just angry and frustrated. I don’t know if it was because of my drug abuse at the time, or what, but i just remember being angry.
Many things can play into our anger. addictions, circumstances, people, things, etc. can all have huge impacts on the things that trigger anger in us.
Here’s a bit of good news: we all have triggers. To recognize this, is monumental to management. There are different triggers for different individuals and each person’s sensitivity varies. Someone who has explosive anger outbursts would be highly sensitive to the things that trigger that individual. An individual that brushes things off easily, would be less sensitive.
I believe the key to anger management is patience. If you can be patient with your responses to the things that cause you to feel anger, you are more likely to remain calm and civil instead of becoming violent. To truly control anger, you must see things in reality. When we are angry, we view things as unattractive, threatening, or unpleasant and we want to react to those negative aspects. If we can wrap our minds around the whole of the situation, including the positive aspects of the who or what of the situation, then we can implement necessary means to remain calm.

The idea is to think before you react. The process can take a long time. The fact is there is hope!

role knowing

just had one of those bittersweet conversations with my wife that hurts so good.
when you’re a natural born leader, it’s hard to follow someone who is a leader only by title. I struggle with this, but Sarah is quick to point out that my submission to this leader is the difference between moving the cattle to where they need to go or all of us cows standing around in our own poo. i love my wife!
She’s right. if a leader submits to his leader, the effect is better for the whole group or cause.
At the root of it is pride. Just because an individual thinks he or she can do something better than another who is in leadership, does not make that individual called to do that job. I’m learning that i have a role and until i’m called to step up, it’s better to know my role and shut my hole.